Praise For My Father
I lost my father two weeks ago. Although I knew it was coming, it was devastating.
He died three months after his scheduled surgery led to complications.
It was hard to see him suffer for three months. I still have a hard time understanding the suffering in my head.
I’ve talked to close friends, my teacher and my counsellor. It helped but it’s still hard. It will take time.
I went home for the funeral. I did not intend on going but I’m glad I did because I got to witness how amazing my father was.
I witnessed his friends, ex-colleagues, siblings and childhood friends shed tears because they couldn’t believe such a great man is gone.
An 84-year-old man showed up at the wake the first day I was there. He came in the afternoon when it was quiet, without his wife because he needed to cry and share his story with us, alone.
I saw my uncle, his only brother, cried on the last day of the funeral when he thought no one was looking.
I witnessed my brother and sister’s sorrow when they put my father in the crematory oven.
“He was such a gentle soul.”
“He never had a bad word to say about anyone.”
“He was there for me when my husband died.”
“He was so wise.”
“He was the bright light in our breakfast club.”
He WAS a great man.
He used to buy an extra lunch if there was an elderly person in the neighborhood who was struggling financially.
He would give you the last two dollars in his wallet if you needed it.
He took over the family business so his siblings could follow their dreams.
He gave his children his retirement money so we could have an education.
He loved my mother with all his heart.
He was a great man. He believed in kindness. He put family first, always.
Every time I spoke to him on the phone, he would say “Make sure you drink water, eat healthy, exercise and poop every day.”
Dad, I love you and I miss you.
Life is short, tell the people you love how grateful you are, that they are in your life.
Life is short, spend it with those who nourish your soul, those who make you laugh and make you feel loved.
Eat the cake, be silly, smile at a stranger, give great hugs.
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