Praise For My Father
I lost my father two weeks ago. Although I knew it was coming, it was devastating. He died three months after his scheduled surgery led to complications. It was hard to see him suffer for three months. I still have a hard time understanding the suffering in my head....
read moreWhy Do We Talk Around Death Instead Of About Death?
Why do so many adults avoid talking about death? Why do so many of us pretend “it won’t happen to me?” Why do we talk around the subject of death instead of looking at it head on? Maybe because our elders avoided the subject with us? What if? We were taught from a...
read moreLet Go
I am tired. I am tired of patriarchy. I am tired that in my mid-forties, I still have to fight to speak my truth in my family. I cannot be silent anymore. I cannot stand by and see him suffer. I cannot allow fear to cause me to sit in silence. I want to shake my...
read moreIt’s Never About The Food
Maybe, sometimes, but I will get to that later. On my Facebook post last Sunday, I shared that when I was paying for my muffin at a popular grocery store, the male cashier decided to warn me that my muffin was high in calories and it also contained a lot of sugar. He...
read moreMaybe I Am Enough
Maybe I am enough. Maybe I am good. Maybe I am not broken. Maybe I am making a difference. Maybe I cry because I am strong. Maybe my tanned skin is not ugly. Maybe my fears are justified. Perhaps I can stop fixing myself? Perhaps my sadness, my darkness, and my pain...
read moreWould You Like A View With Your Urn? – 7 Chinese Death Rituals
Are you open to talking about death with your parents, spouse or friends? Is it a taboo subject? Do your loved ones know your wishes before it's too late? During a recent family dinner, we were discussing death rituals and I announced to my mother that I had...
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